Adoption May be the Most Positive Decision for You and Your Baby
Not everyone is ready to be a parent when they become pregnant. As you decide what is best for you and your baby, you may be asking some of these questions:
“Can I love my baby and still consider adoption?”
Yes, you can. Loving your baby involves choosing what is best for him or her, whether it is single parenting or adoption. Some questions you can consider:
- How will I support this baby?
- How will I meet my goals for my education and career?
- Who will the father-figure be for my baby?
- Am I ready to limit my social activities so I can care for my baby?
“How could I carry a baby for nine months and then ‘give it away?’”
Asking this question shows that you are already bonding with the life inside you. Adoption is not “giving away” your baby, as if you don’t care. Instead, you would be making an adoption plan to provide the best life possible for your baby, and that decision would be based on love and responsibility.
“How will I know how my baby is doing?”
You have the choice of having an open adoption. In an open adoption, you can choose and meet prospective parents who are carefully screened, and pick the ones that sound best for your baby. Depending on the degree of openness that you want, you can exchange information and know how your baby is doing.
“Don’t adopted children grow up to have psychological problems?”
Many studies have shown that no difference exists between adopted and non-adopted children in terms of adjustment, self-esteem, delinquency and mental health. These children are as deeply attached to their adoptive parents as their siblings who are not adopted, and are loved just as deeply by their adoptive parents.
“Could I ever be happy if I placed my baby for adoption?”
Any option that you choose can be emotionally difficult. However, studies show that women who place their babies for adoption are more likely to continue their education, be employed, and have a higher household income. They are less likely to have another out-of-wedlock pregnancy. These women report a greater overall satisfaction with their life, including their work, finances, and relationships with their partners.
“Children don’t really need fathers, do they?”
Dads do make a difference! Studies show that children in families without fathers are more likely to grow up in poverty, abuse drugs, commit suicide, and become pregnant.
Have more questions? We encourage you to come to the Pregnancy Center to discuss your options with us. We can connect you with birthmothers, adopted children, adoptive parents, and adoption agencies, if that is your desire.
Our female peer counselors will help you examine your options confidentially. Call today to make an appointment or just walk in.